So I just want to jump right into something here. Happiness doesn’t come easily in this world. We live in a world where we are surrounded by constant negativity. Whether it be the news, our co-workers, customers, or even our own families, negativity is being tossed at us every day, and an overabundance of negativity and happiness can’t exist in the same place. Are there simple steps to get there? Yes, but they take hard work and consistent effort.
8 Steps To Happiness:
Change “Sorry” To “Thank You”
I saw a post on Facebook the other day that basically said to stop saying sorry, and I’ve definitely seen an improvement after implementing this into my days. Instead of saying “sorry I’m late,” say “Thank you for waiting for me.” Or, “sorry I snapped at you,” could be “thank you for your patience and understanding.” This pulls the negativity out of the situation; it releases you from self blame and gives praise to the person you’ve wronged. (If anyone knows the original poster, I would love to tag them.)
Keep A Gratitude Journal
For the first two months after my second daughter was born I had the hardest time finding happiness. I wasn’t in a situation where I was raising an almost toddler and trying to comfort a colicky newborn at the same time. There were days when I would go 20 hours straight carrying for babies and not giving any care to myself. I felt like I was in a constant state of exhaustion and irritability. I was losing sight of any positivity in my life. So, I promised myself that I would write down one thing each day that I was grateful for. This brought not only happiness, but understanding back into my life. Writing down ONE thing, helped me realize what my priorities, wants, and needs were.
Practice Self Awareness
Listening is a powerful tool that we often don’t fully utilize. I’m not talking about listening to the teacher or listening to music on a Sunday night. I’m talking about full, in-depth awareness of what is going on around you, but more importantly, with-in you. Once you start listening to what your body and your mind are trying to tell you, you will become more aware of your actions and behaviors and how the impact they are having on your life. Journaling and meditation have helped a lot with my self-awareness. These tool allow me to reflect on my day and figure out what was causing any anger or upset that manifested within me, allowing me to take control of how I react in the future.
Take Personal Responsibility For Your Actions
I am a very proud person. In the past I had the hardest time admitting when I was wrong. I would defend any action I made and would actually get mad at the person questioning me. This left me with a serious grudge holding problem and a lot of bitterness towards people in my life. I’ve gone through quite a bit of growth since then. I am still a very proud person, but I’ve learned to take personal responsibility for my actions. This has not only brought me more internal happiness, but has also improved my relationships.
Think happy thoughts.
Did you know that it is speculated that alterations in thought could increase serotonin levels in the body? Negativity breeds negativity. Think happy thoughts as often as you can and happiness will come. We all have shitty days, but instead of dwelling on the shit, think about the things that are going well for you. You have survived this far, so that in itself is something that should be cherish.
Watch Your Self-talk
This kind of goes hand-in-hand with the last one. Instead of thinking about the size you wish you were or the knowledge you wish you had or the house you wish you lived in, love yourself for who you are, in the moment you are in right now. There are many times throughout my day when I could have handled a situation with my daughters better than I did, but instead of dwelling on my mom fail, I tell myself I am trying, I am learning, and I will improve in the future. We all make mistakes and we all receive criticism daily from the outside world, so don’t beat yourself up internally as well.
Stop Trying To Please Everyone
Speaking of criticism, everyone is a damn critic. Nothing you do is going to 100% approval from everyone you know, 100% of the time. So, as Else would say, let it go. Do what is going to make you happy, and, as long as it’s not causing harm to yourself or others, ignore what other people have to say. If they have a problem with your love for crystals or your obsession with Game Of Thrones, then that is their problem. Let them figure out why it bugs them so much and move on.
Enhance Your Personal Relationships
Since I can be very introverted and independent at times, I used to say that I wouldn’t mind being alone, but that is far from the truth. Humans are social creatures and we crave relationships, often to the point that we will cling to unhealthy ones. This can be extremely draining and has a huge impact on your happiness. I used to have quite a few unhealthy relationships in my life. I realized the exhaustion this was causing in myself and I started distancing myself from those people. Quality over quantity is so important here. Enhance the relationships with the people who make you shine, and dial back on the rest.
I hope you found this helpful and I would love to hear what techniques and tips your uses for daily happiness. Share your thoughts in the comments.
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